NEW YORK (MainStreet) How many times have you gotten a last minute call or text from a friend hosting a party: "Can you bring ice?" "Don't forget the booze!" or "I think we may need something for dessert." Those of us who enjoy having people over understand the pressure of being a good host, and if you've ever attended a house party, you know it's considered good manners to walk through the door holding a bottle of wine in one hand and a box of cookies in the other.
Unfortunately, party planning isn't always easy, and if hosting gets the best of you, it might be tempting to reach out to guests and ask them to supply what you need. But there's a fine line between a simple request for extra drinks and a demand for bottles of champagne your guests simply can't afford. Before you plan your next party, make sure you're not asking your guests for more than they feel comfortable with. Experts warn that greedy hosts may find themselves permanently removed from others' guest lists.
Is it rude to ask guests to bring food and drink to a party?
It depends on the type of party, says Heather Bell-Pellegrino, president of A Perfect Plan!, a Westchester, N.Y., event planning firm.
"If it's a backyard barbecue/get together, it is not rude to ask guests to bring a dish. Tell your guests you're so excited to be hosting the get together, and are going to supply the main meal but would appreciate everyone bringing a bottle of soda and a bag of chips," Bell-Pellegrino says.