NEW YORK (MainStreet) Men are competitive, self-involved animals with low self-esteem. Women, on the other hand, are nurturing, rational human beings loaded with self confidence. Check the byline. It's a guy writing this. But I didn't do the research.
Kate Ratliff, Ph.D., of the University of Florida, has done the research and finds that men may not particularly revel in the success of wives or girlfriends. In fact, the study, published by the American Psychological Association, says men's subconscious self-esteem may be battered when their spouse or girlfriend succeeds.
"It makes sense that a man might feel threatened if his girlfriend outperforms him in something they're doing together, such as trying to lose weight," says Ratliff. "But this research found evidence that men automatically interpret a partner's success as their own failure, even when they're not in direct competition."
In five separate experiments involving 896 people, the research indicated that it "didn't matter if their significant other was an excellent hostess or intelligent, men were more likely to feel subconsciously worse about themselves when their female partner succeeded than when she failed."
"One possibility is that, because men are generally more competitive than women, men are more likely than women to interpret a partner's success as indicating that they are not as good as their partner," she says. "There is an idea that women are allowed to bask in the reflected glory of her male partner and to be the 'woman behind the successful man,' but the reverse is not true for men."