Why is she stopping there? Why doesn’t she list the things she wants on your gift registry?
3. WHY NOT JUST GO FOR THE KOBE BEEF??
Following my daughter’s wedding reception, I found that four members of the groom’s family had ordered special meals. This wasn’t for religious or health reasons. They just decided they’d prefer Ahi tuna to the entrees they were offered. So that’s what they bullied the waiter into bringing them, and I got stuck with the tab— in addition, of course, to paying for the wedding meals they didn’t eat.
There’s nothing you can do. Just be grateful they didn’t order a couple of bottles of pinot grigio to wash down the fish.
2. AND THE BRIDE WORE CASH
Earlier this year my thirty-something daughter announced she was getting married and asked my ex and me for money for the wedding. So, we each gave her a big check. But then the wedding was called off when the groom got cold feet. Now my daughter won’t return our money because she keeps hoping he’ll change his mind.
Our advice to that woman is first and foremost, keep asking. Second, when she does get married don’t write her a check for the amount, but pay the bills as they come in to avoid the same situation.
1. REVERSE DOWRY?
My bride’s parents have always made a big show of their prosperity, and at their insistence, we had an extremely lavish wedding. Following the reception, my father-in-law took my mother aside, told her his business was facing “a financial emergency” and asked if my folks could lend him $25,000.