According to said friend, "It brings to mind the scene in Goodfellas when the Robert DeNiro character tells his cohorts not to be showy or they’ll draw the attention of the Feds.” He pays for his collection of modest enjoyments with the credit card, which is paid online. Again, no record.

Mrs. Fuchs says: You are using one of cinema’s more famous homicidal maniacs to support your argument?  Listen, if you have enough money as a family or couple to allow for discretionary spending, then why not agree to allow it as long as it doesn’t jeopardize your finances?  However, if you do not have enough money, then what the heck are you doing secretly taking money away from your family and your financial responsibilities?  By the way, I also have a friend who has her own account.  However, her husband knows all about it.  She gets to buy things now and then without discussion or negotiation but there are no secrets involved! Perfect solution.   

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