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When It's OK to Talk About Your Salary

By Libby Kane

NEW YORK (Learnvest) — Do you know how much your co-workers make? How about your friends?

Money isn’t always the easiest thing to discuss, and when you add workplace dynamics, it only gets trickier.

Assuming your office doesn’t expressly forbid discussing pay, who exactly are you allowed to discuss it with? When is it completely off-limits? And how do these rules translate to discussing salary with friends?

We spoke with etiquette experts, recruiters and HR professionals to figure out when it’s appropriate to talk about your salary — and how to do it.

Why is the subject of salary so touchy?

“So much of who we are is based on what we do professionally, and by extension, what we earn,” explains manners expert Thomas P. Farley (aka “Mister Manners”). ”In American society, much of the respect we get from others is tied to what we earn.”

But this isn’t the norm everywhere. Daniel Post Senning of the Emily Post Institute points out that in much of Europe it’s considered rude to ask people what they do for a living when you first meet them. “If you’re able to engage in pleasant conversation, you’re expected to be able to do it without prying,” he says.

Senning adds that there are tiers of polite conversation, ranging from the most innocuous and widely suitable topics (sports, the weather) to the most intimate topics you should discuss only with close friends (family and finances).

When bringing up a potentially personal topic such as finances you never know where the conversation will lead. “Their favorite topic might be real estate problems in lower Manhattan,” Senning says. “Or they might just have been foreclosed on.”

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